Are we a generation of depressed people ? Were our parents happier than us ? Are we delving too much into this ‘happiness’ thing ?
Not on the verge of sounding too cynical but it seems that people everywhere are trying too hard to be happy.Gone are the days where this was just a mental state and not a choice.Here I am in my late 20s with a stable and satisfactory job and supportive family, sitting on a bean bag and a coffee trying to find ways to be happy.No,I dont want to leave this life and miraculously go on a trip or do something life altering.
I just want to be happy like the way when we were younger.When I didnt have to think about it,I just was.
When I look up to our earlier generations,with no disregard to anyone ,I dont think they paid too much attention to this aspect of their life.They were raised in a different era conditioned to different lifestyle.They were made to study,had job,family,kids,built a home,kids education ,job,their family meanwhile following all the social obligations and commitments and you know what,they did all that happily.They had their fair share of setbacks,ups and down but they never had a problem with that lifestyle.Individually it was never me ,it was always us.They were a unit.They had arguments and fights but they neither wanted to stay in isolation nor wanted to go on trips or outings with friends.They had a sense of responsibility towards their family .
And here all I want is a me time and that too often!
Now its not like we, as a generation,are shunning away our responsibilities.So many people i know are working hard supporting themselves,their families and yet are trying to create a balance between what they ought to do and what they feel will make them happy.We are aware of our duty towards our parents and we do it happily but that is just one aspect.
We want to do more ,something for our ourselves.We dont want to attach our happiness in other person’s achievement.We want something of our own.We want our personal space,personal time,quality time with our friends and not the customary outing with each other’s social circle.
Are we becoming selfish then? As per older generation ,yes we are but if we look at this with our generation’s viewpoints it is perfectly normal. Of course,this is what is generation gap. Yet if we are doing everything correctly,why are we trying so hard to be good at being happy?
Having said that,sometimes I wish our parents generation had this concept of me time too.They were so invested in us that they didnt look beyond it.We were their entire universe and now when most of us have moved out of their homes due to education,job ,marriage or any other reason they suddenly feel alone.It pains most of us because we have seen them devoting all of their youth and energy into us and now we are on the quest of finding our own self.Our grandparents generations mostly lived in joint families so they never faced that problem.
I think it is important to take out time and create an individuality for yourself before comitting to the family life.Just one request to our older generations,please dont judge us for giving ourselves priority.What you guys did was great and cant be compared with but just once allow us to explore our options and if not agreed with our life choices atleast be with us and dont make us feel guilty of following them.We may not be knowing at most of times what the hell we are doing with our lives but trust us because we may not understand a lot of things but one thing we know for sure that we dont want to live a life full of regrets.